Know that the Right Person Will Appear
Calling the Right Person Into Our Lives
We seek specific people in our lives. We search for mates, mentors, friends, employees, and people who link and lead us to others. Finding these people can be an agonizing search. Consider that it can also be simple. I've experienced this numerous times with many different people that played widely divergent roles in my life. You begin with being clear on your intention... on the kind of person you are seeking...and then the right person will appear.
Recently, in a short period of time, I experienced this with two different people. It made me reflect on this phenomenon and recall how many times it's happened to me over the years. These two recent instances were very different--yet with both I first heard the phrase, "The right person will appear," strongly in my mind and heart.
Seeking Expert Help
The first episode happened when I was looking for a counselor for my teen aged daughter. The person my husband and I had known for many years, a counselor, friend, and spiritual guide, had just passed away unexpectedly. I felt lost. I had no one to turn to help my daughter with an issue troubling her. I considered going on line and searching for someone or asking for references from other parents. It just didn't feel right. I imagined finding a person who had a caring and safe demeanor. Probably a woman. And I just heard the phrase, "The right person will appear."
About a week went by. At an appointment with my chiropractor I mentioned to her that I was looking for a counselor who worked with teens. She exclaimed, "I have the perfect person!" She gave me the name and number. I called the person, a woman, and immediately knew this was the counselor for my daughter. She made me feel safe and loved. I knew my daughter would feel the same.
Making the Connections
When I went home, I told my husband that I'd received a reference. Astonished, he said, "I know her. In fact, we used to live about two blocks from her!" In fact, she was a client of his. He just had no idea she worked with teens. We made an appointment.
As my husband and I were walking to the first appointment that the counselor requested with just the parents, it suddenly hit me. I had told myself that the right person would appear. Clearly, this counselor was the right person. But her last name was the clincher. Her last name is Wright! The right person will appear!
Seeking the Right Employee
Shortly after this incident, I had an producer/editor opening on my staff. I'd been frustrated by the lack of candidates that stood out with great work examples. I know from experience that it's a mistake to settle, yet I was getting to the point where I had to have the job filled. I had one person who I thought could do the job, but would need management time to get him up to speed. Again, I relaxed, and heard the phrase, "The right person will appear."
I imagined receiving a fantastic disc filled with the work I was looking for. Great writing. Exciting editing. And it would be great if the person could also shoot video. If she happened to be a woman that would be a plus too, to get some diversity in the group. Then I went on vacation.
While I was vacationing, a former employee who lived in another city and now wanted to return, emailed me. I had just bought a Blackberry the week before so it was the first time I'd been able to check email when vacationing. I didn't know the person myself, but she received rave reviews from colleagues. I asked her to overnight her demo to me, and I'd watch it as soon as I returned.
The Vision Comes True
When I walked into my office the demo package was waiting. I slid it into the DVD player. And my mouth dropped. It was EXACTLY the reel I'd imagined. It was downright freakish. The story treatment, the editing, the writing...everything was exactly as I'd seen it in my mind! I looked at her resume. She was also a videographer. And she also happened to be a woman. I heard the phrase again, "The right person will appear." I picked up the phone immediately. She was moved and at work for us two weeks later.
Finding Mentors
While the two incidents above happened within weeks of each other, I have had the perfect mentors appear in the same way. My writing coaches all came into my life by knowing that the right one would appear in the right time. I've had the most far-fetched needs be met just by having faith that somehow I'd connect with the appropriate people.
For instance, at one point in my novel-writing, I felt I needed to go on an archaeological dig as part of my research. Now, digs are not events that occur in major metropolitan areas. I figured I'd have to travel quite a distance and beg someone to let me tag along. Figuring I had to start somewhere, I called the local archaeological society. One referral later, I was on the phone to an archaeologist at the county. I didn't even know my local county had archaeologists. I described what I was looking for, and wondered if he had any ideas on who I could contact about attending a dig. He paused and said, "Well, it just so happens we're doing a dig in Sherwood this weekend. You're welcome to come to that if you're willing to help shovel." Sherwood was less than 20 miles from my home!
Dig this!
I went to the dig, of course. The purpose of the dig was to investigate if the site of a planned road would go through an area of importance to Native American culture. It was a fascinating experience. And a rare one. Over lunch, the man from the county said how odd it was that I'd called...because not only were digs infrequent, they'd never done a dig that close to the city before. The right person will appear.
Taking Action to Open the Way
It's important to understand that just because the right person will appear doesn't mean that you just wait around and do nothing. You do have to take actions to help the process. In every one of these circumstances I've shared I took specific steps to effect the process. I asked for a referral for a counselor. I'd posted the job. I had a Blackberry with me. (this employee remarked that if I hadn't checked my email on vacation, I would have already hired the other person before she could get her demo to me.) I sought writing teachers. I made phone calls to archaeologists. The list goes on. But it begins with knowing that you will be drawn to the right people and events.
Adopt the phrase yourself. Notice how it sounds and how it feels to you. The right person will appear!
(I would love to hear your comments on this topic, and any others you would like to read about!)
We seek specific people in our lives. We search for mates, mentors, friends, employees, and people who link and lead us to others. Finding these people can be an agonizing search. Consider that it can also be simple. I've experienced this numerous times with many different people that played widely divergent roles in my life. You begin with being clear on your intention... on the kind of person you are seeking...and then the right person will appear.
Recently, in a short period of time, I experienced this with two different people. It made me reflect on this phenomenon and recall how many times it's happened to me over the years. These two recent instances were very different--yet with both I first heard the phrase, "The right person will appear," strongly in my mind and heart.
Seeking Expert Help
The first episode happened when I was looking for a counselor for my teen aged daughter. The person my husband and I had known for many years, a counselor, friend, and spiritual guide, had just passed away unexpectedly. I felt lost. I had no one to turn to help my daughter with an issue troubling her. I considered going on line and searching for someone or asking for references from other parents. It just didn't feel right. I imagined finding a person who had a caring and safe demeanor. Probably a woman. And I just heard the phrase, "The right person will appear."
About a week went by. At an appointment with my chiropractor I mentioned to her that I was looking for a counselor who worked with teens. She exclaimed, "I have the perfect person!" She gave me the name and number. I called the person, a woman, and immediately knew this was the counselor for my daughter. She made me feel safe and loved. I knew my daughter would feel the same.
Making the Connections
When I went home, I told my husband that I'd received a reference. Astonished, he said, "I know her. In fact, we used to live about two blocks from her!" In fact, she was a client of his. He just had no idea she worked with teens. We made an appointment.
As my husband and I were walking to the first appointment that the counselor requested with just the parents, it suddenly hit me. I had told myself that the right person would appear. Clearly, this counselor was the right person. But her last name was the clincher. Her last name is Wright! The right person will appear!
Seeking the Right Employee
Shortly after this incident, I had an producer/editor opening on my staff. I'd been frustrated by the lack of candidates that stood out with great work examples. I know from experience that it's a mistake to settle, yet I was getting to the point where I had to have the job filled. I had one person who I thought could do the job, but would need management time to get him up to speed. Again, I relaxed, and heard the phrase, "The right person will appear."
I imagined receiving a fantastic disc filled with the work I was looking for. Great writing. Exciting editing. And it would be great if the person could also shoot video. If she happened to be a woman that would be a plus too, to get some diversity in the group. Then I went on vacation.
While I was vacationing, a former employee who lived in another city and now wanted to return, emailed me. I had just bought a Blackberry the week before so it was the first time I'd been able to check email when vacationing. I didn't know the person myself, but she received rave reviews from colleagues. I asked her to overnight her demo to me, and I'd watch it as soon as I returned.
The Vision Comes True
When I walked into my office the demo package was waiting. I slid it into the DVD player. And my mouth dropped. It was EXACTLY the reel I'd imagined. It was downright freakish. The story treatment, the editing, the writing...everything was exactly as I'd seen it in my mind! I looked at her resume. She was also a videographer. And she also happened to be a woman. I heard the phrase again, "The right person will appear." I picked up the phone immediately. She was moved and at work for us two weeks later.
Finding Mentors
While the two incidents above happened within weeks of each other, I have had the perfect mentors appear in the same way. My writing coaches all came into my life by knowing that the right one would appear in the right time. I've had the most far-fetched needs be met just by having faith that somehow I'd connect with the appropriate people.
For instance, at one point in my novel-writing, I felt I needed to go on an archaeological dig as part of my research. Now, digs are not events that occur in major metropolitan areas. I figured I'd have to travel quite a distance and beg someone to let me tag along. Figuring I had to start somewhere, I called the local archaeological society. One referral later, I was on the phone to an archaeologist at the county. I didn't even know my local county had archaeologists. I described what I was looking for, and wondered if he had any ideas on who I could contact about attending a dig. He paused and said, "Well, it just so happens we're doing a dig in Sherwood this weekend. You're welcome to come to that if you're willing to help shovel." Sherwood was less than 20 miles from my home!
Dig this!
I went to the dig, of course. The purpose of the dig was to investigate if the site of a planned road would go through an area of importance to Native American culture. It was a fascinating experience. And a rare one. Over lunch, the man from the county said how odd it was that I'd called...because not only were digs infrequent, they'd never done a dig that close to the city before. The right person will appear.
Taking Action to Open the Way
It's important to understand that just because the right person will appear doesn't mean that you just wait around and do nothing. You do have to take actions to help the process. In every one of these circumstances I've shared I took specific steps to effect the process. I asked for a referral for a counselor. I'd posted the job. I had a Blackberry with me. (this employee remarked that if I hadn't checked my email on vacation, I would have already hired the other person before she could get her demo to me.) I sought writing teachers. I made phone calls to archaeologists. The list goes on. But it begins with knowing that you will be drawn to the right people and events.
Adopt the phrase yourself. Notice how it sounds and how it feels to you. The right person will appear!
(I would love to hear your comments on this topic, and any others you would like to read about!)
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